Received an email few days ago. Found that it is very meaningful. So decided to share with u all~ =)
In whatever relationships - Family, Love and Friendship, we need to put in our efforts in order to maintain those relationships. If we don't do that, we might lose our loves one.
TRUST
TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships.
When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship.
Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger,
anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
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NO POINTING FINGERS
We all look forward to being loved and respected.
Many people are afraid of losing face.
Generally, when a person makes a mistake,
he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at.
This is the start of a war.
We should always remember that
when we point one finger at a person,
the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive others, others will ignore our mistake too.
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NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character." It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.
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PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception.
One man's meat could be another man's poison.
You can never have everyone praise you,
nor will everyone condemn you.
Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear.
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BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes.
We are allowed to make mistakes.
But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
"I'm trying my very best!"
